The secret to everything

The secret to everything

This weekend I was having breakfast with a stockbroker friend of mine who told me he thought my job must be really stressful, and asked how I dealt with it. A broker in this economy and market thinks MY job is stressful? I brushed it off, telling him I used to be in IT and this was nothing compared to working with a bunch of left-brained gearheads. In fact, I only have one token friend in technology now, and that’s Gerard McClean. It’s all I can handle.

But he pressed me about it and so I told him. I meditate. I meditate all the time. No, I don’t get in a lotus position and chant “Om”. First of all, I have arthritis and these knees won’t bend anywhere close to that. And I’m not very good at it and I get distracted when I’m doing it. But I try to do it once a day at least. And the difference in my stress level is pretty incredible.

Years ago, I was in a horrible marriage and terribly depressed. The antidepressants they gave me literally made me crazy and I jumped out the window. Since it was the first floor, I was okay, but still had to find a way around the depression after I dusted the leaves off my butt. (I have a neighbor who thinks I’m absolutely nuts. I don’t blame him.)  I went on retreat and met a former Catholic nun turned Buddhist taught me how to meditate. And I’ve been doing it ever sense. Here’s how. 

I think people imagine that meditating takes a lot of time. It really doesn’t. I go to and find something that’s not too weird and not too long (5-10 minutes) turn off my phone and put in my earplugs. I always use something with a guide or a narrative.  When it’s over I go back to work. And that’s pretty much it.

Try it. I think you’ll find it calms you down, helps you focus and takes the edge off the gut wrenching fear. Here is one of my favorite non-weird ones, pretty normal, just breathing and the sound of the ocean.  You can find plenty of stuff on youtube to clean your chakras, find your spirit guides and meet your swami ramamamabanthy if you want to.

Do you meditate?


  • hifu prostate
    Posted at 21:36h, 14 November Reply

    My best form of meditation is just plain relaxing, sitting on the sofa comfortably on a dim lighted room with soft music playing in the background reflecting and thinking. That’s pretty much it for me. I sometimes do yoga as well, it helps.

    A sound mind is a sound body.

    • bonnie
      Posted at 07:50h, 15 November Reply

      I agree! I think anytime we can turn off the chatter is a good thing.

  • Frank
    Posted at 13:26h, 15 November Reply

    I’m a former Buddhist turned nun. No not really. I’m a former hippy turned disciple of Jesus, though.

    I’m with Rob Thomson on this one – get by yourself with the Word, and pray. Good stuff.

    Interesting article, my friend! Thanks for reminding me to do so!


    • bonnie
      Posted at 13:32h, 15 November Reply

      That’s funny Frank. Although I think people though Jesus’ disciples were kind of the “hippies” of their day, yes?

  • Rob Thomson @ River Homes
    Posted at 10:15h, 15 November Reply

    Best way for me to mediate is to just unplug, tune out, turn off and read the Word. No positions and salutations, just HIM and I with some quiet time.

  • Blake
    Posted at 04:27h, 16 November Reply

    The best way to meditate for me is self-reflection. Going out in nature without bringing your gadgets is one good way to start.

  • Chlorella
    Posted at 11:10h, 16 November Reply

    Befor i meditate i run one hour after that i can really good meditate because i don’t think at any thing and my thinkings a fly away. After running and meditating i’m feel like a diffrent person.

  • Pumpkin
    Posted at 07:08h, 17 November Reply

    Meditation relates to ones inner demons if you can call it that. Go in a park and sit for 3 or 4 hours alone(leave your phone and ipod at home). Works best…for me at least

  • Husnain
    Posted at 08:15h, 17 November Reply

    nice joke

  • Mark@Creative Team Events
    Posted at 05:50h, 17 November Reply

    A great post title and intriguing picture works every time.

    Unfortunately, I’ve not managed to work out how to consistently make the time to meditate, so I have to work harded at it. When I seem to run out of time with too many things on, that’s when I have problems and that’s when I would benefit most.

    • bonnie
      Posted at 07:51h, 17 November Reply

      My perfectionism used to kick in even for meditation!! I used to be really hard on myself…I would set a certain time of day and a certain amount of time and if I didn’t do it, then I would feel badly. Now I just try to remember to plug in the earphones once a day or so. If I don’t get to it, it’s not that big of a deal.

  • Clara @ Lifes Health Care
    Posted at 01:43h, 20 November Reply

    Hi Bonnie.. thanks for describe about the maditation.. I will try to provide my time to do this meditation. hopefully with this could refresh my mind.

  • tree care
    Posted at 05:27h, 23 November Reply

    Great blog. I love it and thanks to Admin for sharing this nice blog.

  • margarita machine
    Posted at 05:56h, 24 November Reply

    I thought meditation is hard thing since it needs concentration. But I was wrong.

  • margarita machine
    Posted at 07:48h, 24 November Reply

    Great I’ll start mediation immediately

  • Missy
    Posted at 14:23h, 27 November Reply

    I’m with Blake, nature does it for me. A good walk in a non crowded park does it for me. And or just takin a nice drive.

    Works for me.


    p.s. Although quiet time also can’t be beat. Just a moment of nothing but quiet can work wonders as well.

  • FoonIn
    Posted at 10:15h, 28 November Reply

    I always had faith in meditation, but the picture is very misleading. It gives strength and relief to a person who is consistent in meditation.

    • bonnie
      Posted at 10:20h, 28 November Reply

      We were just trying to give you a laugh with the photo!

  • Wireless Associations
    Posted at 10:20h, 28 November Reply

    I think meditation is the best way to get things right in anyone’s life. It brings happiness and self-satisfaction to a person.

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