Try some fashion Feng Shui for your next big event

Try some fashion Feng Shui for your next big event

If you’re like me, you probably have some anxiety about attending a conference, trade show or networking event. In 20 years I’ve probably had more training than the next person on the art of the schmooze, but I still get the willies sometimes.  A few years ago I learned a secret that might seem a little silly, but it really works.

I have been fortunate to work with Carole Hyder as a client for a long time. Carole is an international teacher, author and businessperson who specializes in Feng Shui, the ancient Chinese art of balancing the energies in your home and work.  I’ve already written about the power of wearing red underwear  if you’re going to be on TV but there’s more fashion Feng Shui you can use for a really big day,  whether it’s a speech, an important meeting, conference or anywhere you need to be at your best.   Whether it works because it works, or it works because it’s all in your head (and really, what’s the difference) it works. First let me tell you a little story and then I’ll tell you how to do it. 

Several years ago I was going to a conference in Los Angeles that involved all the biggest TV production companies, networks and major influencers in the industry.  It was important that I make as many contacts as I could but I was really intimidated –  my business was fairly new and I felt like a bumpkin.  I mentioned my apprehension to Carole, who gave me a simple way to  incorporate something from each of the five “elements” into my wardrobe. That way, Carole said, people would be attracted to ME…I wouldn’t have to do anything special.

Basically, Carole told me to incorporate each of the five elements (wood, earth, wind, water and metal) into my outfit for the day. Of course I was skeptical but I also had seen some of the incredible changes Carole had made in people’s lives through this ancient Chinese practice. Plus, what could it hurt? And so, on the biggest day of the conference, for metal I wore  my favorite gold watch, a blue shirt for water, gold earrings and a pair of beige pants. And of course, the famous red underwear.

What happened next was remarkable. Again, maybe it was the Feng Shui. Maybe it was my confidence or attitude. Maybe it was the magical power of manifestation. Who knows, and really, who cares? Almost immediately upon arriving at the conference a man approached me and asked if we’d met before. He was the head of production for NBC Universal. Then, as I stood in line for coffee, the head of a small cable network asked me several questions about where I was from and offered to let me pitch him a show idea. (Keep in mind, EVERYONE at this conference was trying to get to these people.) A bit later, I was invited as a VIP to a party for the head of the production company that created major shows like That 70’s Show. Later on that day, Mark Cuban sat down next to me and started chatting. And at the party that night, I befriended the director of SNL’s short movies, and we watched the Pussycat Dolls dance on the bar.

No lie, tons of other people approached me that day too. Remember we were in Los Angeles where gorgeous blonde bombshells are 10 to a block if not more so I know it wasn’t my looks. (And I wasn’t wearing a crazy hairpiece either)  I collected tons of cards, and I still keep in touch with many of those people today. (Sadly, Mark Cuban has not returned my emails however.)

Since then, it’s become my secret weapon for events. It’s easy, it’s fun and for whatever reason, it always works.

If you want to know more about Chinese Feng Shui and the elements, I found a really good description here.  But for a quick primer, here are the steps to getting dressed with the “elements”. Try it and see let me know what happens!

  1. Put everything on with the intention that piece is representing a particular element. According to Carole, this is important.
  2. Wear something of metal. This can be gold earrings, a watch, or even a belt buckle.
  3. I love to wear red underwear, but you can wear anything that represents fire or the color red.
  4. Water is typically blue. Remember it doesn’t have to be a huge piece of blue. Even a small pocket handkerchief works.
  5. Wood is pretty easy when you’re dressing. If you can’t find something made of wood, wear dark brown. A headband or other hairpiece might work.
  6. Earth is also light yellow, beige or tan.
  • Rufus Dogg
    Posted at 11:43h, 21 October Reply

    I once showed up at a conference wearing wooden clogs, a wet t-shirt, red underwear, muddy fingernails and a heavy ax. It was definitely NOT the Feng Shui experience I thought it would be, even though I had all the elements on. Where did this go wrong?

    All kidding aside, I’m not sure about Feng Shui but “red underwear” and the small things in order, like shoes polished and laces tied evenly, tie knot perfect and collar stays in place, nails trimmed, a starched shirt and suit that fits does wonders for the way I stand up straight and project confidence.

    • bonnie
      Posted at 14:20h, 21 October Reply

      That’s feng shui as well. You’ve reduced your fashion clutter well done. But is that the proper dress for a dog conference?

  • Power Wheels Jeep
    Posted at 09:07h, 23 October Reply

    This is pretty weird to me. If someone had told me to wear each of the five elements next time i had to do something important like a conference, i would of told them where to go and just laughed at them. But my sister in law told me a story similar to yours and it worked too.

    So im not sure if its all the mind, but i will give it a go next time. 🙂

    Good article


    Power Wheels Jeep

    • bonnie
      Posted at 14:45h, 23 October Reply

      I’ve learned that weird is not necessarily synonymous with bad. Glad it’s working for you!

  • Website Strategy
    Posted at 05:36h, 24 October Reply

    Feng Shui, is the idea or practice, if you will, of living in harmony with the natural world which will remain same even in office.

  • Rob Thomson @ River Homes
    Posted at 09:05h, 24 October Reply

    A short prayer of strength and confidence has always worked for me. I guess it is all in the mind set. Clothes don’t make the man, but a comfortable pair of shoes is worth it. I’ve never been much on the lucky rabbits foot in my pocket deal. Great pic for the post! Thank you.

  • Jack Sander
    Posted at 06:16h, 26 October Reply

    Very interesting tip…I’ve never imagined that such minor things could play a big role…nevertheless, i hope i won’t make the fool of myself, when i show up dressed like a Christmas tree..

    • bonnie
      Posted at 06:27h, 26 October Reply

      I suppose a xmas tree would have all the elements but Im not sure that’s the right application. Very festive though I’d like to see it! 🙂

  • ivan
    Posted at 07:48h, 30 October Reply

    that’s you believe in feng shui ???? because I don’t really trust. according master fengshui call someone A is different from the other master fengshui.

  • arlington appliance repair
    Posted at 01:13h, 14 November Reply

    It may be but its really awkward for someone who dont have the kind of experience that wearing these five elements makes your meeting or conference whatever you have important regarding your business will be touchy and make you successful in that event.

  • Winter camp program
    Posted at 01:16h, 22 November Reply

    This is a new thing to try to make the event successful but in my opinion, nobody would believe or would say that it was your lucky day but probably you feel that it happened due to the wearing those five elements that you wore on that day. May be, there is a possiblity but cannot acceptable from anyone easily.

  • Kenmore appliances repair VA
    Posted at 03:49h, 23 November Reply

    I did not hear anybody saying something like you have mentioned here that if you wanna make any event successful you may wear these five elements as these five elements helped you to be successful in that particular event. How it is believable?

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    Posted at 06:20h, 04 May Reply

    Feng Shui is really famous from where I came from. I don’t know if this is true but there’s no harm in trying right? Your post kind of proves that. Thank you for this, anyway.

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